By Shavonne Taisha

I’ve had my share of run ins with arrogance. The scrapes on my ego left me distitute. Clinging to the edge of my last well thought decision and launching me into a sea of regret. I quivered hoping only to be resurrected by the rejection of these words, “you attract what you are.” The cruisade led by the socially conscious, emotionally intelligent, pick me’s, craving “Ase” as they slice others with the expectation of perfection.

Victimhood is defined as “a way of attracting sympathy, so rather than emphasize either their strength or inner worth, the aggrieved emphasize their oppression and social marginalization.” But the reality is NO ONE WANTS TO BE A VICTIM. It isn’t a championed sport. You may view someone as a victim, but many people have used their platforms to gain notoriety for their vast experiences, traumatic or not. We all have a story. We all have to deal with ourselves and our truths. NEWSFLASH: This is NOT RACE.

Activist and author, Alaina Knox more commonly known as @NappyHeadedblkGirl made it tremendously simple for those who don’t understand “Stop using your emotional intelligence to bully people.”

On one hand we praise those seeking help for mental illness and trauma, on the other we slap them for not progressing at the rate we deem socially acceptable. People who fine themselves in reoccuring situations are never proud of the turn out. Many are seeking new ways to assume the best position in their own life. They are the cocreators of the reality but have suffered at the hands of those once entrusted with their souls.

The “Law of Attraction” isn’t a ruler used to judge the depth of ones reality. We each experience external factors that contribute to how we communicate and manifest the narratives of our lives. Humans like to gain an understanding of situations, by creating labels for those they don’t understand.

We are proud that you have reached your “peak of success” but understand many others are taking leaps of faith to trust they can be emotionally secure as well.